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Maybe I should go to therapy?

Are you interested in therapy but not sure when or if you should go?

Reaching out for mental health services can be very daunting. And, you might not know when to take that step.

Fortunately, it is never too early to go to therapy. However, there can be some signs to look for when determining if therapy is the right, next step for you.

Isolation:

Do you feel like you are pulling away from those around you? Maybe you feel like others don’t understand you or understand what you need from them. Isolation can lead to feelings of loneliness, which can make navigating life challenges and transitions even more difficult. Going to therapy can help you feel less alone and give you the language to help communicate your needs with those around you.

Difficulty sleeping:

Are you having trouble going to sleep or staying asleep? Maybe you’re waking up and not feeling well rested, despite getting 7+ hours of sleep. Insomnia or hypersomnia can be signs of mental illness. Sleep is vital to your wellness and difficulty sleeping can be a good indicator that therapy might be helpful.

 

 

Emotionally “dumping” on others:

Are you going to the same person to vent, day in and day out? Maybe you feel like you’re becoming a burden to others? Venting to friends and family can be helpful, but venting occasionally to a friend can quickly turn into venting very often, which might not always be helpful for you or your loved ones. Therapy can be a great place to talk through your current struggles while providing you with skills and strategies to help navigate them more effectively.

Difficulty relaxing and being present:

Are your muscles tense or does your mind wander when you’re trying to focus? Do you have a difficult time relaxing to unwind from the day? Difficulty relaxing can impede stress management and prevent you from adequately resting from the day. Mind wandering and difficulty being present can increase stress and create difficulty doing daily activities or tasks at work. Therapy can help you learn relaxation and mindfulness techniques to help manage your stress and improve your ability to be present throughout your day.

Not experiencing any of these, but still interested in therapy? Feel free to find a clinician you like and schedule an appointment. 

Again, it is never too early to go to therapy!

Autism Awareness Month

Are you wanting to learn more about autism? 

Maybe you are suspecting an autism diagnosis in yourself or someone you love? 

Beverly Henkel, PsyD, LPA, is one of two providers at Carolina Psychological who can provide testing for an autism diagnosis. Continue reading to learn more about her work with autism and some other important information. 

How often do you see an autism spectrum diagnosis during your work with clients?

Autism spectrum testing is the most common referral question I receive for completing evaluations of all ages – children, adolescents, and adults!

What are some things to keep in mind if individuals are suspecting an autism diagnosis in their child or themselves?

Some things to keep in mind, for both adults and parents of children who suspect autism, are any sensory issues, social difficulties, or repetitive behaviors with heightened emotions (think anxious, happy, angry). Hand flapping is often the most thought of repetitive behavior when talking about autism but is certainly not the only one. These behaviors can also be related to other diagnoses as well, so if there is any concern, an evaluation is always helpful in determining the most appropriate diagnosis to help inform treatment.

What do you recommend for individuals who are not currently in therapy, but suspect they have an autism spectrum disorder?

As mentioned above, an evaluation is the most helpful tool to find an appropriate diagnosis. However, if you are not currently in therapy, finding a therapist is a great place to start. You can begin creating a relationship with a therapist, address current concerns, and after an evaluation, they can begin working through a more specific treatment plan with you.

What is a good resource for individuals wanting to learn more about autism?

A great resource to learn more about autism is the Autism Society of North Carolinahttp://www.autismsociety-nc.org/

Autism Speaks: Autism Education & Resources | Autism Speaks

Introducing a New Clinician!

We are thrilled to welcome Elizabeth Brown, MA, MS, LCMHC-A, to the practice. She has extensive work experience in the school system and brings great knowledge and skills to serve clients here at Carolina Psychological Associates. She came on board the beginning of March and has hit the ground running. Keep reading to learn more about Elizabeth!

How long have you been working as a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor?

I received my licensure in January 2023. Prior to my current position, I spent 23 years working as an elementary school counselor with both elementary and middle school age students. I retired from Guilford County Schools in December 2022.

Why did you choose this work?

Working as a mental health therapist gives me the opportunity to work intensively with my clients and their families.  I love the age range that I serve (ages 4-18) and the array of challenges and situations each day brings.  The families and youth I serve are highly motivated to work toward their goals and I am honored to help facilitate this in my role as a therapist.

What population of clients do you serve? Why that group?

I have loved working with young children and teens since I was in middle and high school myself. Perhaps because I consider myself a child at heart, I easily connect with the younger population I work with. You are never too old to play and learn new things!

What is something that you enjoy doing for fun?

I love to exercise and move my body whether through yoga, strength training, walking, biking or hiking.  I love to travel to new places and visit state and national parks. I am a “nature girl” and I love time outdoors, especially enjoying the beautiful hiking and biking trails in Greensboro. I love to spend time with my husband, Ray; our adult kids, Nicholas and Austin; and my goldendoodle, Scout. Every day is a gift and I try to celebrate the small events and never take them for granted.

Share a fun fact about yourself!

Fun fact, I went skydiving with my best friend from childhood to celebrate my 50th birthday.

Spotlight: Two Familiar Female Leaders

Did you know that Carolina Psychological Associates is a female owned practice?

Well now you do!

The familiar faces of Sarah Gates, MA and Heather McCain, Psy. D have worked together to build and grow an already strong private practice. They are both still practicing clinicians in the Greensboro office and do a large amount of behind-the-scenes work to ensure CPA is providing quality services. 

They both prefer to stay out of the spotlight, but agreed to share some information about their personal experiences as women in leadership. Continue reading to learn more! 

Who is a female inspiration to you?

Sarah: I have been fortunate to have a few female figures in my life who have inspired me. Two that stand out however, are my mom and my internship supervisor, who both inspired me to be kind, compassionate, to always persevere and stand up for what you believe is right (especially when there is adversity), to take the time to learn someone’s story, and to be an approachable leader who values those around them.   

Heather: In graduate school, I completed a 3rd year practicum at Elmhurst College in the counseling center.  Tamara Levinson, PsyD was my supervisor during that year.  She was dynamic, free spirited, kind, incredibly intuitive, confident, and therapeutically gifted.  She was the one who helped me see that what I thought I needed to accomplish in my training was never going to fit me as a person.  She helped me to see my strengths, embrace them and harness them.  I still look back on my time there and my luck at having her as a mentor and hold her influence as one of the most meaningful and impactful to me.  

If you could go back and tell your younger professional self (25 year old you) one thing, what would it be?

S: If I could go back, I would tell myself to not sweat the small stuff so much and to trust my instincts. I would also cheer myself on and tell myself to keep working hard in my pursuit of my goals and dreams!

H: Ha!  I don’t know if I would tell her much.  That was around my favorite time.  I was really finding myself, finding my path, about to meet my husband, taking risks intentionally to challenge myself, and it was crazy scary, so exciting, and so meaningful.  I think even the things I could change I wouldn’t because you learn from those things and carry that forward.  I think I would say to enjoy it, be in the moment, soak it in, the future will come, and keep challenging yourself and pushing yourself to grow; which I like to think I’ve done.

When you started your career did you ever imagine yourself in this position?

S: I always envisioned myself in a private practice setting and being surrounded by a group of warm, kind, supportive and amazing colleagues. So, I guess the answer is yes because that is exactly what happened! I suppose I would tell my 25-yearold self that too! 

H: Yes! I knew my dream job was to work in private practice.  In training, I worked in a Community Mental Health Center, Inpatient Psychiatric Hospital and College Counseling Centers, including Duke’s Counseling Center for Internship.  I thought for a moment, that I might really find my home in college counseling, but I wanted to flexibility and independence of private practice.  It’s not as flexible as I anticipated when you are scheduling out further than your personal life, but I love it as much as I imagined!  I know that no other setting would come close to what I have at CPA.

What led you to step into this leadership/ownership role?

S: The opportunity to join management/ownership was offered to me back in 2010 by the owners of CPA and of course I could not turn it down! I was fortunate to receive mentorship and support from the experienced members of the management group until they retired, and Heather and I have been an excellent team since then! 

H: I’ve always been the kind of person who wanted to max out my opportunities and continue pushing myself to learn and take on different challenges.  I shoot for the top rung of the ladder if I can, and leadership is that for me.  To create a working environment that feels fun to go to every morning, to have decision making ability about the direction of my career, to try and create a place that offers to others what I find in it, and hopefully an opportunity to mentor others in a similar way that I received because those lessons and those words of guidance still remain in my head today.

What advice would you give to the next generation of female leaders?

S: My advice is to never give up and to trust your instincts along the way. Stay true to who you and surround yourself with people who build you up and support you.  

H: I think the greatest advice I received was don’t strive to be like everyone else, strive to be yourself, the best version of it you can, and you will stand out from the rest.  Create your own goals for yourself and then keep moving them further out when you achieve them.  Don’t be afraid to work and work hard, it is true that goals are worth the effort put into them and nothing is accomplished without effort and sacrifice that is meaningful.  Ultimately, don’t ever let your fear make decisions for you.  If fear is the only thing stopping, you; then you have to do it.  Growing opportunities always come with discomfort; the payoff is most certainly worth it.

How do you balance career, personal life and passions? Is there such a thing as balance?

S: If there is a way to balance, could you let me know? Just kidding My family always comes first but I think that for me, my career and passions intersect and so they become entwined and I find passion and joy in my career. So, if I am not spending time with my husband and son, you will find me working either in the office or at home, meeting with clients or writing evaluation reports, or working on continuing to uphold the strong reputation that CPA has built for itself over the decades.   

H: When I was younger, I was determined you could have it all; why not??  I’ve learned there is no balance, and no one has it all; women or men.  It’s a balance beam you are always teetering on and it’s always moving so you never quite get settled.  There are times when your career demands more of your time, energy, focus and periods when your interests and family claim the majority of your resources.  It’s always shifting; like the waves in the ocean.  Enjoy the calm, there will be periods of choppier seas, but they pass.  Accept everything won’t get 100% of you but you can give the best you can to what’s important to you.  Maybe in the end the average is what balances out.  I try my best day to day.  On the harder days I remind myself how lucky I am that there’s not a thing on my plate I would cut; I love them too much.   That’s the best problem to have really.

Maybe Couples Counseling is for Us?

When you hear someone say, “we go to couples counseling,” what thoughts pop into your mind? Maybe you assume they fight a lot. Or maybe something traumatic has happened in their family or relationship. Maybe you wonder if they are contemplating a separation. 

While those things are a possibility, it is equally possible that there, actually, is nothing wrong. Couples counseling tends to get a bad reputation because people often assume that couples seek help as a reaction to a strain in their relationship. However, some might argue that couples counseling works best as a preventative measure, therefore starting before there is a large relationship strain. 

What are the chances you and your partner will experience conflict, grief, parenting style differences, job loss, etc?

Very high.

So why not work together to be better prepared for life difficulties as they arise? 

It can feel….well… odd, reaching out for therapy when there isn’t a large “issue” at hand. Continue reading as Dortch Mann, LCHMC, a clinician in our Greensboro office, shares some insight from his experience and training as a couple’s counselor. 

Is it ever too early to start couples counseling?

It’s never too early to start and you don’t need to have a strained relationship to benefit from couples counseling. I’ve worked with couples who had no significant problems or challenges yet found they improved their relationship by concentrating on it and by learning ”advanced” collaboration skills. The most successful couples keep this Zen-like notion in mind…everything is fine AND there’s room for improvement. Yes, they can understand and become comfortable with that paradox.

What are some good “signs” that a couple might benefit from couples counseling?

  • Lack of intimacy (and it’s not just about sex).
  • Avoiding talking about issues due to a lack of trust.
  • A ”cycle” of arguments that go unresolved.
  • Navigating a new phase of life.

What is one small thing couples can do daily to enhance their emotional connection?

This almost always works for couples to feel closer and more connected. I suggest they find an ideal time for each to share the highlight of the day with the other. While the ”sharer” is speaking, the other is only listening, not asking questions or making comments. The listener is truly listening to gain the other person’s perspective. The listener then demonstrates how well they listened by being able to paraphrase the gist of the “sharer’s” experience as well as imagining how they felt. Each person becomes a ”sharer”, then a ”listener”. Feeling heard and understood by each other always leads to emotional connection.

Feel free to head over to our website bios and learn more about Dortch Mann, LCMHC and his clinical specialties. You can reach out to our front desk at (336) 272-0855 if you are interested in scheduling an appointment. 

New Year, Same You?

The start of a new year tends to bring this “sprint” towards big goals and lasting change. But have you ever kept a resolution…all year?

Odds are, you haven’t. But, you’re actually in the majority, because most people haven’t either.

The slogan “new year, new you” sounds great and all, but nothing magical happens from December 31st to January 1st to make that slogan true. So, lets change it.

“New year, same you.”

No, it doesn’t sound nearly as transformative and might actually sound…well, sad for some. But, it is much more realistic and, arguably, more motivating.

Stay with me here.

It is indeed a new year, and you indeed are the same person. However, with the new year can come new patterns, habits, and goals. And you, yes, the same you, have the potential to create new patters, habits, and goals in the new year.

But how? You might ask. Keep reading for a few things to keep in mind this year.

Dream big. Start small.

Many people have big, lofty goals, yet they can’t tell you how they’ll achieve them. Dreaming is absolutely the best first step. Allow yourself to color outside the lines and imagine big and bold dreams. Then, using those big dreams, narrow them down to create smaller and smaller goals.

 

 

These small goals will provide you realistic steps in achieving your bigger goals. So often people set goals that are too big, without realistic steps to get there, and ultimately feel like a failure. This can compound over time, resulting in low self-esteem and little desire to set new goals. So, after dreaming big, create a plan with smaller steps to help you get there!

 

Motivation will come and go.

“I’ll get to it when I feel like it.” Unfortunately, motivation is not a constant. It comes and it goes depending on many different life factors. If you always rely on motivation to accomplish something, how often will it get done? Odds are, not as often as you may want. Knowing this ahead of time can be helpful, because in setting your goal you are committing to doing something regardless of how motivated you are in that moment. 

Reward yourself.

For some, checking it off a list is enough of a reward, but others might need a little extra. Feel free to reward yourself along the way as you accomplish hard things, consistently. Start with smaller rewards for the smaller goals, and feel free to increase them as you move closer to your big and bold dreams!

Look, we’re growing again!

We are excited to introduce Lori Vasquez, MA, LPA! She has joined us in the Greensboro office and brings some great experience to the team. Continue reading more to get to know Lori and find out what she is bringing to the CPA team.

What services do you provide here at CPA?

I currently provide psychological testing for both children and adults in the Greensboro office.

Why did you choose this work?

I chose this work because I was retiring from Department of Health and Humans Services after working in various inpatient and long-term care facilities. I wanted to challenge myself to grow and learn new things.

What population of clients do you serve? Why that group?

Currently, I test children and adults.  I would love to work with the geriatric population; however, I am not in network to perform these services for that population.

Where did you move from?

I moved from Goldsboro, N.C. in November 2022, after spending 27 years in a house where I raised my daughter and many pups.

What are you sad to leave behind?

I am sad to leave behind my friends, patients, and beloved colleagues.

What is something that you enjoy doing for fun?

I enjoy reading, playing with my dog Toby, and playing word games and spades for fun.

Share a fun fact about yourself!

I am half Filipino, and my father was the first to come to the United States to practice medicine and establish himself.  Many people think I’m Spanish and approach me to converse in various environments; however, I am only fluent in English.

Staying Present During a Hectic Season

As the year is winding down, the holiday season is just getting started.

How do you feel about this time of the year?

Maybe you love it, because it means you get time with loved ones or because you love warm and cozy evenings. Maybe you don’t like the holiday season because you miss loved ones who have passed or because of the financial burden it can create.

There is no doubt that the holiday season starts earlier and moves faster than ever. With some Christmas decorations coming out before November 1st, the holiday season can feel more like the “hurried season.” It is so easy to fall into the “rush” of it all. 

Unfortunately, we cannot stop time, but we can incorporate some daily practices that help us stay present. Grounding techniques can help pull both your mind and body back into the present moment and away from racing thoughts or distressing feelings.

Physical grounding techniques:

Take 6 deep breaths. Imagine that you just pulled a hot tray of cookies out of the oven (picture your favorite cookie). You want them to cool off as quickly as possible, so you take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale through your mouth like you’re cooling down the cookies. Take another deep breath in through your nose and another long exhale through your mouth to cool them off. Continue this for 6 breaths. Deep breathing can have wonderful results like slowing your heart rate and allowing relaxation. Thinking about your favorite cookie might also put a smile on your face!

Put your hands in water. Head to the sink and turn the water on cold. Place your hands under the water and notice how it feels. Does it feel good? Refreshing? Uncomfortable? Now switch the water to hot. How does the hot water feel? Switch back and forth from hot to cold a few times, focusing on how the changing water temperature feels on your hands. This allows your mind to refocus on your present, physical sensations. 

Mental grounding techniques:

Counting. Pick a number and count backwards. If counting backwards by 1 is too easy, then count backwards by 3 or 7. You want this to be a decently challenging exercise. This can help you recenter your thoughts and mind.

Naming your surroundings. Pick a color, and name everything in that color in your surroundings. Then, pick another color and do the same thing. Continue this as many times as needed. This practice takes some focus and brings your awareness back to your current environment. 

These grounding techniques can be powerful tools to help you manage the hectic holiday season as well as daily stress or anxiety.

Staying present takes practice and will not happen perfectly the first time you try a grounding technique. But stick with it, because the more you practice, the easier it will be. 

Excited to Introduce our Newest CPA Clinicians

We are so excited to introduce two new faces to Carolina Psychological Associates. Both Tamara and Beverly jumped right in and have already started seeing clients. Continue reading to learn more about them!

Tamara Davison, M.Ed., LCMHC, NCC

Tamara is currently seeing adolescents and adults, through individual, couples, or family therapy in the Greensboro office. 

How long have you been working as a licensed clinical mental health counselor? 

I have been in the field of counseling since 1991 at which time I graduated UNCG with a Master of Education in Counseling. 

Why did you choose this work? 

I always knew that I wanted to be in a “helping profession.” I majored in psychology in undergraduate school, and after a couple of “wrong turns” I found my path as a counselor. 

What population of clients do you serve? Why that group? 

I currently serve older adolescents and adults. I worked with children for much of my career. When I started working in a psychiatrist office in 2002, I had the opportunity to work with adults.  I very much enjoyed working with adults and in recent years decided to stay with that population. 

Where did you move from? 

I moved back to this area from Laurinburg. NC in June of 2022. It has changed a great deal since graduate school! 

What are you sad to leave behind? 

Some great people! 

What are you looking forward to about living in Greensboro? 

Opportunities to do more things! Access to more dining, shopping, events, and beautiful parks. Also excited about living closer to the mountains. 

What is something that you enjoy doing for fun? 

Listening and dancing to live music. I also enjoy reading. 

Share a fun fact!

At the age of ten, I was in a community play, The Wizard of Oz. I played Toto, wore knee pads and traveled on all fours throughout the entire play!

Beverly Henkel, PsyD, LPA

Beverly provides psychological testing for individuals ages 6 and up in the Chapel Hill office. She is currently a Licensed Psychological Associate, but will soon be a Licensed Psychologist.  

What led you to be a psychologist?

I’ve always been obsessed with the show Criminal Minds, even as a young child. So, I knew I wanted to work in the field of psychology to figure out what makes the human brain go to such a dark place. This led me to psychology and eventually forensic psychology!

What population of clients do you serve? Why that group?

I serve ages 6 and up for psychological testing. Children are great to evaluate because you can always see the resiliency in them and help make an impact while they are young. However, testing complex, adult cases is something I particularly enjoy. There is so much information to review and it feels like you really get a full picture of the person in front of you. 

Where did you move from?

I was born and raised in Oregon until 2015, when I moved to Chicago to start my PsyD program!

What are you sad to leave behind?

I miss the nature and beauty of Oregon, although North Carolina is very similar to Oregon in that respect. I really miss living in Chicago and everything the big city had to offer! The food, the people, the culture there was all life changing to experience and I hope to visit frequently. 

What are you looking forward to about living in Raleigh, North Carolina?

I’ve lived in Raleigh for 3 years now and I’m so excited to start working more in the community and making connections. 

What do you enjoy doing for fun?

I love doing family dinners with my boyfriend’s family on Sundays and dinner with his brother’s family on Thursday’s. I also love playing with my puppy and two cats, reading Harry Potter, and watching true crime documentaries!

Share a fun fact!

I’m a published poet in London and the only red head in my family!

Suicide Prevention Week

Trigger warning: suicide

Suicide is not a topic many people are comfortable talking about, for various reasons. This is also why Suicide Prevention Awareness is so important, to destigmatize suicide and to provide education and valuable resources. September 4th through September 10th is designated as National Suicide Prevention week, while the month of September is designated as Suicide Prevention Awareness Month.

(800,000 deaths a year worldwide)

Suicide, like heart disease and cancer, is a leading cause of death in the United States. In 2020, nearly 46,000 people died by suicide in the US alone. In response to the rate of suicide in the US, every state began implementing the phone number “988” as the new Suicide Prevention Lifeline on July 16th, 2022 in hopes of increasing accessibility to the lifeline for those in need. The previous number, 1-800-273-8255 (TALK), will still be available to those in emotional distress or crisis.

Many people feel helpless when they know a loved one struggling with suicidal thoughts. It is a nuanced and complex topic, but there are a few ways you can help support those you love who may be struggling. Continue reading for some signs and risk factors that help you know when someone might need your help or support.

Concerning Comments

Sometimes individuals who are thinking about suicide might make comments about wanting to die. While bringing up wanting to die does not mean someone is suicidal, it is worth taking note of those comments and following up with that individual to check in. Other times an individual might make comments about not having a reason to live or feeling like a burden to those around them. These comments can sound like “You don’t need me anymore” or “It would be easier if I just wasn’t here.”

If you hear these comments, validate their feelings first, then let that person know they are valued and important. Emphasize that they are not a burden and check in to see what they might be struggling with. Offering a listening ear can make a huge difference and help them feel less alone.

Mood and Behaviors

Often, those struggling with suicidal thoughts have an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. This means that they might have difficulty seeing a future without their current pain or struggles. Hopelessness can look like decreased motivation, low energy level, and low or depressed moods. The feeling of hopelessness can be incredibly isolating, which also contributes to the feeling of being “alone” or that their friends and family “won’t understand the way they feel.” In response to some of these feelings, individuals might self-isolate by staying in more often or turning down social invitations that they previously would have accepted.

Some behaviors that go along with suicide or suicidal ideation are giving away cherished belongings, insomnia or hypersomnia, and acting anxious or agitated. These behaviors do not mean someone will act on a suicidal ideation, but are just behaviors to be aware of.

If a loved one is exhibiting some of these moods and behaviors, check in on them. Again, offering a listening ear can go a long way.

Access to Lethal Means

Finally, access to lethal means, like guns, drugs, or other potentially harmful items, is a large factor in suicide. You might see someone increase their interest in one of these lethal means or talk about them more than they did previously. If you know someone is in imminent danger, do not hesitate to call 911.

If you notice any of these comments, moods, or behaviors in someone you know, don’t be afraid to ask them questions. Checking in with them to see how they are feeling and what they are struggling with can help you determine if they are having thoughts about suicide. It is also important to note that while asking about suicide can be uncomfortable, it will not directly cause someone to be suicidal. While you can validate the way they feel and let them know they are not alone, connecting an individual struggling with suicide to a professional is the most important thing. You can find other important resources below that might be helpful to someone you know. 

Important recourses:

Dial 988 for the Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Dial 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) if you are in an emotional crisis

Crisis Text Line: Text “Hello” to 741741

YouthLine: (ages 11-21): Text “teen2teen” to 839863, or call 1-877-968-8491